Comparing is a difficult habit to break because it’s natural to observe others when in our environment. What is most important is tackling the automatic negative thoughts you have about yourself when you go out. First, know that you are part of a beautiful, vast, and diverse world that is yours to appreciate. Notice how each and every person has a unique face and figure. Isn’t it possible that while you are wishing you could look like a particular person, there’s a person out there wishing they could look like you? Also, keep in mind that although someone may on the surface appear to fit your definition of beauty and/or “have it all together”, you can’t assume that the person whose body you admire is any happier or more successful than you. You don’t know how hard they work at their appearance or what issues they may be struggling with.
Let’s try a thought experiment… Close your eyes and picture yourself at 80 years old. What will you look like then? How will your body feel? What would your 80 year old self tell your current self right now? I’m sure it would want you to enjoy your youth: the strength and flexibility that allows you to dance, move freely, and play sports with energy and exuberance. You know the expression, “you don’t know what you got ‘til it’s gone”? It’s true! Now is the time to make the most of who you are in the body you have. Shifting your perspective to focus on all the ways in which your body allows you to do the things you love can be helpful. While you are comparing yourself to everyone else, your life is happening; be here now and make the most of it!